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Monday, April 15

You Are Cordially Invited... NOT!

A wedding, for me, is also a reunion.

The ceremony is supposed to bring the people, close to the heart of the bride and groom, to witness their union.

Close to the heart? That's what I thought.

But, recently, I felt more disconnected than reunited.

Makisig and Mutya got married days after my twin brother's wedding

Mutya and I are close. When Makisig started asking her out, I told her to give him a chance. We're not in high school anymore, and maybe this time, the relationship would work.

I was one of the first to know that she finally said yes to being Makisig's girlfriend after months of courtship.

We're so close, that she even offered me a spot as one of the secondary sponsors in her entourage for her wedding. She knew, then, that it was too early to be thinking about marriage, but she felt it in her heart that Makisig is the one who she'd be spending her lifetime with.

And she was right.

But what happened was, I was never part of the wedding entourage. And to make it worse, I wasn't even invited to their wedding.

Months after, it was Sweet's time to walk the aisle. 

So how close am I to Sweet?

I was always there, a shoulder to lean on, during her past two heartaches.

I looked after her, and made sure that she makes the right decisions. Cliche as it may sound, heartaches can cloud people's judgment. And I love her so much, I wouldn't want her to screw up her life because she's hurt.

I helped her move on until she finds love again. And she did.

She got married a couple of weeks ago, and yes, I wasn't invited to her wedding. And the worst part? I only knew through Facebook.

Being not invited sucks!

But that's nothing compared to how little they both valued the friendship that we had.


aboutambot said...

i hope "it comes in threes" won't happen to you.

Nate said...

@aboutambot: hi there! ay naku! I hope not! hahaha! thanks for dropping by, and leaving a comment! :)

citybuoy said...

i can't really speak for your friends pero i know a few of mine are careful with invting me.. maybe it's the beki thing. and i'm like derr... di naman ako bitter sa kasalan. haha

cheer up, nate. :) tinanong mo ba sila about this?

Anonymous said...

exhumed_angel says:

i can actually relate...yes, it hurts not to be invited but it hurts more knowing that it seemed they didn't want you to be part of their happiest times when in fact, you were part of their loneliest moments...cases like this, it's a test of friendship i think...pag ganito, iniisip ko muna kung nagkulang ba ako bilang kaibigan.. if my assessment dictates i did my part really well, i shrug it off, then move on...actually the 'shrugging off' part includes downgrading that person in my friendship list (i.e. from friend to a mere i don't think its harsh, i am just giving what they deserve...we are just after of the recognition that we believe we truly deserve, right?...i firmly believe (q & a segment ng pageant? lol) that people who helped you in your struggles should also be part of your triumphs...its a way of thanking them...pangit naman yung eksenang pag may problema sayo tas pag saya sa kanila? ano to lokohan? haha... the righteous life knows the meaning if true gratitude and friendship...;)

however, what happened is reality... there are a lot of people who are like that.. well cliché as it may sound, just charge it to experience...what is important is you've been kind to them during their 'needy' moments..;)

Nate said...

@citybuoy: nyl!! haha!! uhm, it's like a taboo to ask why you're not invited to a wedding.. parang words are better left unspoken pag ganun.. oh well.. :/

@exhumed_angel: hi jim! uhm, ayun.. parang ganun na nga ang papel ko sa buhay ng mga tao.. i'm just a shoulder to cry on, a sponge, a sounding board.. ganyan.. :/

kalansaycollector said...

awww. maybe may reason sya...

anyway im new here! hehe
hello. :p

Nate said...

@kalansaycollector: hi! welcome to my blog! thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment! :)

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